Loneliness is a mirror of your self-hatred. - Alamir

"Self-hatred essentially means that you have split your own self into two types of parts; acceptable parts and unacceptable parts. Those aspects of yourself which you have considered to be unacceptable, you naturally start to resist them and push them away from yourself. This attempt at pushing away one's own self creates friction in the human system. This friction is what we know as loneliness.

There is a great misconception that loneliness is there because of other people's incapacity to see and hence to validate our truth; when, in reality, loneliness comes from us not accepting and validating our own internal truth.

The moment we invalidate ourselves, it is inevitable we will become desperate for other people's approval and validation. But essentially we are just trying to get that approval out of other people which we should be giving to ourselves.

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When we accept our reality, we provide the validation and belonging to our truth that it needs to feel whole in and of itself. The moment we see and acknowledge and accept our truth; no matter how dark or positive it is, that moment will be the end of our loneliness. That will be the day we will be ourselves again. And, when we do that, when we become ourselves, that is when we become independent of the desire of other people's approval. That is when we become free. That is when our life truly begins.

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May we all heal. May we all be free. May we all be ourselves. ❤❤"

Pilt ja tekst: spiritbyalamir

Alamir on ka vaevalt VT's vanem poiss, aga nii armas ja arukas teine :) - kena kohe lugeda! 💗

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Sellist asja nagu eneseohverdus pole olemas.

Kui inimene ise arvab, et ta teenindab teisi ja hoiab ennast 'näljas', siis tegelikult serveerib ta teistele sedasama haput nälga, milles ise elab. Ja teised ei parane. See on haige olukord, sest üks arvab, et ta on andnud ja teistele ka jääb mulje, et nende eest hoolitsetakse - aga sellist tunnet pole! Tunne on paha, kentsakal kombel. Nii võidakse 'eneseohverdajate' suhtes hoopis vimma kanda. Meil on hea vastu võtta ainult rõõmuga vabaks antut, mille puhul andjat ei seo antuga (olgu see aeg, toit, tähelepanu või teene) kiindumus ..., et oleks endalegi ära kulunud, aga ... mis nüüd mina.

Kui inimene annab, sest see tundub loomulik ja hea, siis ta lihtsalt elab oma sisemise rõõmu ja rikkusega kooskõlas ning ei tunne, et ta ennast ohverdab, kui ka kõik pealtvaatajad niimoodi arvavad. 

Selleks, et üldse anda, peame endas rahu looma, et tuleks armastus.

Peame rahu tegema nende omaduste või minevikukogemustega, mida oleme endast eemal hoidnud.

Peame vastu võtma, et oleme vahel ikka täielikud nirakad ja närakad olnud ning ei saa välistada, et oleme edaspidigi, ning armastama ennast sellegipoolest.

Kuidas me teame, et juba armastame ennast?

Ving ei tule enam. Me ei vingu enam olude ja inimeste üle.

Sest enesearmastus ja enesekaastunne laienevad iseenesest ka teiste inimeste armetuse peale.

Selline tingimatu maailma-armastus on ilusasti olemas meis kõigis ja ootab lihtsalt avanemist :)