"True love is when you feel free and at home at the same time.
Trust not only supports personal mental comfort but it becomes the foundation for a long lasting partnership. Control, when a lack of trust combines with attachment, can quickly become micromanaging— this leads to the lack of space that makes people feel tense and unable to breathe deeply.
If we cannot understand each other, we will struggle to be good to each other. When communication is calm it is automatically more clear. When we try to voice our perspectives when emotions are high, often this means we are letting an old defense pattern from our emotional history take the lead, walls will immediately shoot up and very little communicating will occur.
Selfless listening is doing our best to view the situation objectively and compassionately so that we can process what's happening with love instead of ego. When we can hear the views of another person without projecting our feelings onto them there is a greater possibility of coming to a deeper understanding, where both people can see each other clearly and make the changes they need to better support each other's happiness.
Sending love to all beings. May we all grow our self awareness. May we all learn that we can simulatiously live in a loving and kind way while also not allowing others to harm us."
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Ilma usalduseta pole sügavat ja siirast suhet, ilma aususe ja avameelsuseta pole usaldust.
Kahjuks see on nii, et kui tunnistame enda kohta partnerile midagi mitte-nii-toredat, võib ta hakata käituma, nagu me poleks enam teda väärt nii, nagu enne. Ehk siis kasutab seda infot meie vastu ära.
Selline partner tuleb otsekohe maha jätta :D, nii et see pole ABSOLUUTSELT kivi aususe ja avameelsuse kapsa-aeda, VASTUPIDI.
Aga - ei peagi soovima sügavat suhet, igasuguse kergusega suhteid on, ükski neist pole halb, kui see meile mingil eluhetkel just sobib. Ja kergetele suhetele muidugi pole vaja oma lapsepõlve alandustest või jumal teab mis (tema jaoks mõttetust) ballastist rääkida.
Mulle isiklikult meeldib siiski kõige isiklikumate ja puudutavamate teemade kallale karata, sest muidu ma ei viitsi üldse rääkida :D
Sellel on ka varjupool: inimesed on minevikus arvanud, et kuna olen nendega nii avameelne, siis tahan nendega lähedast suhet. Aga mina tõesti lihtsalt ei viitsi mitteavameelselt suhelda.
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