Monday, June 17, 2019

Looking for love

josephpkauffman:

"There are many parts of our being that we have been resisting, and they will continue to arise as we look deeper and deeper within ourselves. The deeper we look, the more layers of conditioning, trauma, habits, beliefs, attachments, and other negative aspects we will find. When these parts of us do arise, all we need to do to heal them is accept them, forgive them, and give them our love.

We do not heal our shadow by judging it, condemning it, or being ashamed of it. We heal it by bringing it into the light—into our love and our awareness. We heal it by looking into it, acknowledging it, feeling it, forgiving it, and making peace with it. Using our loving awareness, we can calmly look into our emotional wounds and begin to heal them. Until we make peace with the things that scarred us in our past—the things that made us judgmental, bitter, cynical, anxious, shy, depressed, or fearful—they will always play a role in unconsciously influencing our lives.


Until we make peace with our past, we will not be able to be at peace in the present. Allow yourself to touch your suffering, to look deeply into the parts of yourself that you have been resisting, so that you may heal these aspects of your being, and be free of them. Forgive yourself for ever harming anyone, whether you did so knowingly or unknowingly. Forgive others for ever harming you, whether they did so knowingly or unknowingly. Forgive yourself for all of the ways that you have treated yourself, doubted yourself, or done something you weren’t proud of.
Forgive yourself for looking for love in others, and forgetting to give it to yourself. Forgive yourself for creating all of the barriers within yourself that have prevented you from being you. Forgive yourself for losing yourself by trying to fit in to society, and give yourself the love that you have for so long looked for in others. Allow yourself to let go of your attachment to the thoughts and memories that are preventing you from being at peace."

- JOSEPH P. KAUFFMAN @ josephpkauffman

Vaat, asjad on juba nii kaugele läinud, et me peame andestama endale, et armastust väljapoolt ennast otsisime. Ma tegelikult pole irooniline, olen nõus. Lihtsalt ... paljud pole nõus isegi sellega, et ennast üldse tohiks armastada, rääkimata sellest, et uskuda, et sellest midagi välja tuleks, et sellest iial küllalt oleks. Aga - see on ainus armastus, mis tekitab küllustunde. Ja ainus armastus, mille puhul saame välja anda tingimusteta armastust - sest see on üle.

Samas ei maksa segi ajada tingimusteta armastust ja tingimusteta suhet, wink-wink! :p

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