"Expectations are often misunderstood as love. When things don't go as planned, we blame love for the pain that comes with the broken attachments that our expectations have created, when really this pain is coming from our inability to let go. The highest forms of love are a one way streak, giving love so that people may shine brightly, without forcing them to shine a certain way.
Many forms of modern day love commonly contain conditions, meaning that we have an idea that we want those we feel deeply for to fit into. Sometimes we don't see our hopes and expectation for the ones closest to us as conditional forms of love, because we perceive what we want for them as "good" things, like parents wanting their children to go to a particular college or to take a particular career path or to seek a particular type of partner. Unknowingly, in our wanting of what is "best" for them we limit our ability to give them the finest and most powerful part of love, which is love that gives life to internal and external freedom.
Though it may seem like a paradox, if people focus their energy on giving love without conditions it will create a more satisfying situation for all involved. Take the example of a partnership with two people, if each person focuses on giving love and supporting one anothers happiness instead of each person focusing on getting what they want out of their partner then the likelihood of each person's desires being fulfilled are much higher. If everyone focuses on giving, we each will actually receive more. Even in these small environments, the universal law of cause and effect is still apparent, what we give will ultimately come back to us in some form or another, but not necessarily on the time schedule that we want it in.
The mentality of "I will give this to you if you do this for me" immediately limits love and our collective possibilities for happiness. Sending love to all beings. May we continue moving forward into unconditional love for ourselves and all beings. May we all be happy and free."
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